I got this question from a friend's status on Facebook ( shout out to Vic D.) but it has been an underlying thing to many of my conversations lately. I have so many friends who have been hurt in past relationships that they are afraid of love. I understand that it is always hard to get over having your heart broke, but how do you expect to ever have love if you are afraid to love and/or afraid of failing? Life is all about taking risks and nothing is without consequence.
I think its all about how you handle the outcome of your actions/thoughts/and words. You also have to remind yourself that you can not be accountable for others' actions/thoughts/and words. All you can do is be you- 1,000%, at all times. Love honestly, fully, hard and openly. Give your all and hope for the best. Everyone is not worthy of your love, so use it wisely and discretely. Should someone take advantage of that love and abuse it, then know that there will come a day when they will reap what they've sowed. You have absolutely no control on who you love, or when you will fall in love or how much you will love someone. Take the time to enjoy the feeling and moments and know that not everyone is going to love like you do. It is not possible to always get what you give. The best thing to do is to just love.
Use that past heartache to make better decisions in the future. Don't let the fear to love or the fear of failure keep you from receiving and enjoying the LOVE you deserve!!!!!!!
Stay with love
*Awesome*
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Friends... Everyone has them (or so we tend to think).
Boy where do I begin?
What is life without friends? I mean seriously. When I reflect on my life, through all of the good and bad times, I have had at least two friends who were there and apart of those moments. Every awesome party, every good and bad relationship, every day posted on the porch or at the park, was shared with some friend(S). Even the unfortunate events such as the death of a loved one, or problems resulting in having to move away... my friends were there. I am blessed to say that I am still friends with most of my friends from childhood. One of my very close friends has been in my life since the 2nd grade, the other since the 4th. Many of my great and best friends I met in the 6th grade. Even now, as a 1st year grad student I am making friends that I hope to have for the rest of this lifetime. It takes alot to be a friend these days. Being a real and true friend takes work, love, understanding, committment- basically the same energy one puts into a romantic relationship should go into building friendships. I think for the sanity of all everyone should learn to let go of negative friendships. Stop trying to be friends with people who are not friends to you. Im not saying you have to be mean and not talk to those people at all. But you dont have to let them be at the forefront of your lives anymore. You dont have to hang out with them, call them whenever you have a problem or even some good news to share. When you see them say hi and keep it moving. Stop wasting time on people who are not investing the same energy into the friendship as you are.
Signs that you need to let go of a friend:
* everytime you talk/see them, they have something mean or negative to say about you/your life, etc.
* you cringe when you see their name on your caller ID
* you only invite them to go out with you or come over when you absolutely cannot find anyone or anything better to do.
* every so often you and the friend fall out and stop talking for months over some dumb stuff
* your friend doesnt believe in boundries. Anything of urs is up for grabs including ur ex, the dude u've been crushing on for years, ur current love, ur fave purse, etc.
* the only time said friend comes around is when he or she needs something from you
* or they've burned so many bridges ur pretty much all they got
If ever you should find yourself bring friends with someone simply because you feel sorry for them>>>>>>> RUN>>>>>>>> far away. Pity is NEVER an acceptable reason to be a friend to someone.
I could go on for days but I think its time to wrap this one up. The bottom line is this: Friends should challenge you for the better. Stop wasting time on those who are not for you.
Stay with Love
*Awesome
GO CAVS!
What is life without friends? I mean seriously. When I reflect on my life, through all of the good and bad times, I have had at least two friends who were there and apart of those moments. Every awesome party, every good and bad relationship, every day posted on the porch or at the park, was shared with some friend(S). Even the unfortunate events such as the death of a loved one, or problems resulting in having to move away... my friends were there. I am blessed to say that I am still friends with most of my friends from childhood. One of my very close friends has been in my life since the 2nd grade, the other since the 4th. Many of my great and best friends I met in the 6th grade. Even now, as a 1st year grad student I am making friends that I hope to have for the rest of this lifetime. It takes alot to be a friend these days. Being a real and true friend takes work, love, understanding, committment- basically the same energy one puts into a romantic relationship should go into building friendships. I think for the sanity of all everyone should learn to let go of negative friendships. Stop trying to be friends with people who are not friends to you. Im not saying you have to be mean and not talk to those people at all. But you dont have to let them be at the forefront of your lives anymore. You dont have to hang out with them, call them whenever you have a problem or even some good news to share. When you see them say hi and keep it moving. Stop wasting time on people who are not investing the same energy into the friendship as you are.
Signs that you need to let go of a friend:
* everytime you talk/see them, they have something mean or negative to say about you/your life, etc.
* you cringe when you see their name on your caller ID
* you only invite them to go out with you or come over when you absolutely cannot find anyone or anything better to do.
* every so often you and the friend fall out and stop talking for months over some dumb stuff
* your friend doesnt believe in boundries. Anything of urs is up for grabs including ur ex, the dude u've been crushing on for years, ur current love, ur fave purse, etc.
* the only time said friend comes around is when he or she needs something from you
* or they've burned so many bridges ur pretty much all they got
If ever you should find yourself bring friends with someone simply because you feel sorry for them>>>>>>> RUN>>>>>>>> far away. Pity is NEVER an acceptable reason to be a friend to someone.
I could go on for days but I think its time to wrap this one up. The bottom line is this: Friends should challenge you for the better. Stop wasting time on those who are not for you.
Stay with Love
*Awesome
GO CAVS!
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
New Shit Im Feeling
This first video def has my vote for video of the year. Shout out to CLEVELAND's OWN KID CUDI.. Mr. West is def in the building with this one. Enjoy!
KANYE WEST "Welcome To Heartbreak" Directed by Nabil from nabil elderkin on Vimeo.
Wonderland by Ms. Brown
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KII2ZlWUimU
Electric Feel by MGMT ( mad I could'nt get an embedded version)
So Good by Electrik Red
Chasing Pavements by Adele
more to come ppl... stay tuned!
KANYE WEST "Welcome To Heartbreak" Directed by Nabil from nabil elderkin on Vimeo.
Wonderland by Ms. Brown
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KII2ZlWUimU
Electric Feel by MGMT ( mad I could'nt get an embedded version)
So Good by Electrik Red
Chasing Pavements by Adele
more to come ppl... stay tuned!
Sunday, February 15, 2009
A Moment of Clarity
I was on my other love (Facebook) and came across a note posted by a friend. Here's what it said:
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
~Author Unknown
This quote here, is what I like to refer as a timeless pearl of wisdom. It sums up every single encounter you have ever had with another human being. There have been so many people who have come into ur life- whether for a year in elementary school, every summer at camp, a semester of college, a short ride on the bus... People are constantly coming and going in ur life. I have another quote that a friend texted me that goes very well with this one. It goes, "God places people in your life for a reason. It is up to you who you decide to let stay, who to let go and who to fight for." I think that both of these quotes can help you when you are dealing with the loss of someone special. Its always a sad time when you have to let someone go. I am in the process of letting go someone that was very special to me. I have found myself questioning why this person came into my life in the first place, but that is a question that I may never have an answer too. Lately, I have found myself referring back to the these two quotes to help myself keep it moving. I hope that they will in turn help you too.
~All my love
*Awesome*
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
~Author Unknown
This quote here, is what I like to refer as a timeless pearl of wisdom. It sums up every single encounter you have ever had with another human being. There have been so many people who have come into ur life- whether for a year in elementary school, every summer at camp, a semester of college, a short ride on the bus... People are constantly coming and going in ur life. I have another quote that a friend texted me that goes very well with this one. It goes, "God places people in your life for a reason. It is up to you who you decide to let stay, who to let go and who to fight for." I think that both of these quotes can help you when you are dealing with the loss of someone special. Its always a sad time when you have to let someone go. I am in the process of letting go someone that was very special to me. I have found myself questioning why this person came into my life in the first place, but that is a question that I may never have an answer too. Lately, I have found myself referring back to the these two quotes to help myself keep it moving. I hope that they will in turn help you too.
~All my love
*Awesome*
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