Boy where do I begin?
What is life without friends? I mean seriously. When I reflect on my life, through all of the good and bad times, I have had at least two friends who were there and apart of those moments. Every awesome party, every good and bad relationship, every day posted on the porch or at the park, was shared with some friend(S). Even the unfortunate events such as the death of a loved one, or problems resulting in having to move away... my friends were there. I am blessed to say that I am still friends with most of my friends from childhood. One of my very close friends has been in my life since the 2nd grade, the other since the 4th. Many of my great and best friends I met in the 6th grade. Even now, as a 1st year grad student I am making friends that I hope to have for the rest of this lifetime. It takes alot to be a friend these days. Being a real and true friend takes work, love, understanding, committment- basically the same energy one puts into a romantic relationship should go into building friendships. I think for the sanity of all everyone should learn to let go of negative friendships. Stop trying to be friends with people who are not friends to you. Im not saying you have to be mean and not talk to those people at all. But you dont have to let them be at the forefront of your lives anymore. You dont have to hang out with them, call them whenever you have a problem or even some good news to share. When you see them say hi and keep it moving. Stop wasting time on people who are not investing the same energy into the friendship as you are.
Signs that you need to let go of a friend:
* everytime you talk/see them, they have something mean or negative to say about you/your life, etc.
* you cringe when you see their name on your caller ID
* you only invite them to go out with you or come over when you absolutely cannot find anyone or anything better to do.
* every so often you and the friend fall out and stop talking for months over some dumb stuff
* your friend doesnt believe in boundries. Anything of urs is up for grabs including ur ex, the dude u've been crushing on for years, ur current love, ur fave purse, etc.
* the only time said friend comes around is when he or she needs something from you
* or they've burned so many bridges ur pretty much all they got
If ever you should find yourself bring friends with someone simply because you feel sorry for them>>>>>>> RUN>>>>>>>> far away. Pity is NEVER an acceptable reason to be a friend to someone.
I could go on for days but I think its time to wrap this one up. The bottom line is this: Friends should challenge you for the better. Stop wasting time on those who are not for you.
Stay with Love
*Awesome
GO CAVS!
What is life without friends? I mean seriously. When I reflect on my life, through all of the good and bad times, I have had at least two friends who were there and apart of those moments. Every awesome party, every good and bad relationship, every day posted on the porch or at the park, was shared with some friend(S). Even the unfortunate events such as the death of a loved one, or problems resulting in having to move away... my friends were there. I am blessed to say that I am still friends with most of my friends from childhood. One of my very close friends has been in my life since the 2nd grade, the other since the 4th. Many of my great and best friends I met in the 6th grade. Even now, as a 1st year grad student I am making friends that I hope to have for the rest of this lifetime. It takes alot to be a friend these days. Being a real and true friend takes work, love, understanding, committment- basically the same energy one puts into a romantic relationship should go into building friendships. I think for the sanity of all everyone should learn to let go of negative friendships. Stop trying to be friends with people who are not friends to you. Im not saying you have to be mean and not talk to those people at all. But you dont have to let them be at the forefront of your lives anymore. You dont have to hang out with them, call them whenever you have a problem or even some good news to share. When you see them say hi and keep it moving. Stop wasting time on people who are not investing the same energy into the friendship as you are.
Signs that you need to let go of a friend:
* everytime you talk/see them, they have something mean or negative to say about you/your life, etc.
* you cringe when you see their name on your caller ID
* you only invite them to go out with you or come over when you absolutely cannot find anyone or anything better to do.
* every so often you and the friend fall out and stop talking for months over some dumb stuff
* your friend doesnt believe in boundries. Anything of urs is up for grabs including ur ex, the dude u've been crushing on for years, ur current love, ur fave purse, etc.
* the only time said friend comes around is when he or she needs something from you
* or they've burned so many bridges ur pretty much all they got
If ever you should find yourself bring friends with someone simply because you feel sorry for them>>>>>>> RUN>>>>>>>> far away. Pity is NEVER an acceptable reason to be a friend to someone.
I could go on for days but I think its time to wrap this one up. The bottom line is this: Friends should challenge you for the better. Stop wasting time on those who are not for you.
Stay with Love
*Awesome
GO CAVS!
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1 comment:
Girl this is a great post! Great job and I'm definitely starting to weed out the bad friends in my life. Truly a good friend is hard to find and when you find a good one you have to cherish that friendship. But I had those no-good friends too that just don't have any boundaries. I let go of a friend like that years ago and now she's calling me trying to hang out with me again. I need to tell her to walk the other way. I knew she would want to be friends with me again because I was truly there for her.
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